WOW we have hit the 8 week mark with our little man time is flying by.. I would be lying if I said that it has all been rainbows and butterflies. It has been tough, we have entered the world of reflux which is a completely different ball game to when Cooper was a baby. I take my hat off to parents who have had to deal with reflux what a bastard of a thing I feel like my life is just one big vomit fest and on the lucky days I get the chance to jump in the shower it usually only results with being vomited on 5 minutes later..
But as a mum my mum instincts were telling me there was more to this then just reflux. I was having issues feeding Bailey he was constantly on and off the boob, fussing and then there was the dreaded choking that usually happened at every feed this then resulted in me frantically trying to blow in his face to get him to startle and gasp. By the end Bailey would be in tears and if I wasn’t crying I was on the verge of crying and my heart rate was through the roof. By 4 weeks I decided enough was enough we booked in to see the paediatrician, funnily enough by our appointment Bailey seemed to being getting sick coughing, sounded very chesty and had noisy breathing I figured it was perfect timing as at least we were off to see the Dr already.
So the verdict was somewhat a relief our little guy wasn’t getting sick with a chest infection or any other stressful illness I was stressing myself over. There was even a reason I was struggling breastfeeding Bailey has what they call Laryngomalacia (LM) which is when the voice box is floppy and at times makes breathing harder and with my fast flow he was constantly choking when feeding. With it also comes a thing called a stridor which means he is quiet a noisy baby and breaths quiet heavy/sounds chesty. they tend to rate LM between mild- moderate and severe we are currently sitting between moderate and severe and very unlikely we will hit the severe stage Pheww as that includes operations and a world I don’t want to have to enter if I don’t need too. We are currently in the “watch and wait” stage with regular visits to our Paediatrician. Scary yes only last night I woke up to the poor little man gasping for air so a few quick blows in the face and pats on the back and we were all good.
So between his reflux and LM i find myself doing everything I avoided when we had Cooper; we rock/pat and hold him to sleep, let him sleep on our chest ALL the time because he just does not sleep and is constantly uncomfortable. But do you know what for the first time I don’t care, with Cooper I was so focused on getting him to self settle and go by the book; don’t get me wrong it was amazing and made bedtime so much easier BUT my anxiety levels would sky rocket if for one reason or another if we had to go off the plan. But this time I am going with the flow and just doing what needs to be done to ensure we are all happy and well rested as can be and do you know what I am so much LESS stressed even with everything going on.
So we are now exclusively on the bottle with thickened formula and meds for his reflux and we have seen a slight improvement although we are off to an app today to re evaluate his meds as they aren’t as effective at the moment.BUT we are getting there like all parents we have our good days and bad but we are so grateful for the beautiful little man that has entered our world even if he does refuse to sleep ;).
How did you cope with the early days?
Did you stick to your “plan” or did you need to re evaluate?